Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes are just the latest in a long line of Hollywood couples whose relationship have come to a screeching end. It seems that La La Land is strewn with broken relationships, but is it the pressure of living life in the spotlight that causes countless couples to part ways? Or do their overinflated egos get in the way of having a shot at lasting love?
Earlier this year we discussed this subject matter with Dr. Reef Karim, The Sex, Drugs & Relationships Doctor and Psychiatrist & Relationship Expert, who has a new book out titled “Why Does He Do That? Why Does She Do That?”
If you didn’t read it the first time, take a look now as it will help somewhat in explaining why so many relationships in Hollywood falter.
But first things first…..Dr. Reef Karim, weighs in on today’s BIG news: Tom and Katie’s split.
As we digest the breaking news of Katie Holmes reported filing for divorce from Tom Cruise, let’s look at the stressors on relationships in Hollywood.
Maintaining a long-term relationship and marriage is hard for any couple and more than 50 percent of couples can’t keep it together and work things out. Add the fact you’re a celebrity with very little privacy, few people who you trust because many people won’t tell you the truth due to financial interests and the fact that your wedding, interviews and social life have been big, big news for five years… and you’ve got the makings of enormous added pressure to keep a marriage together.
Additionally, money can make the world a better place or a miserable place. And when you have money and fame and the deals, competition and often times “contracts” that go along with it, you now have many potential areas of conflict that will ultimately stress a relationship.
Here is our previous interview with him…
Celebzter: Hollywood is littered with broken relationships, why do you think the stars seem to lack an ability to maintain marriages more than most people?
Dr. Reef Karim: Most people (well, over fifty percent) can’t maintain a marriage. In a fast paced society where individual goals seem to be valued higher than emotional connection, it’s hard to maintain ANYTHING long-term.
Now, add the fact that you’re a celebrity. You’re probably surrounded by a lot of people who don’t necessarily have your best interests in mind, there’s very few people you trust, you have very little privacy and personal time, your schedule requires lots of late hours and travel and your emotional development may have been delayed or paralyzed particularly if you were a child actor.
No wonder it’s that much harder for a celebrity to maintain a relationship.
Celebzter: Do you think their vanity and egos get in the way? Or is the temptation on set which causes havoc?
Dr. Reef Karim: Temptation is always right around the corner. Particularly in Hollywood..
The question is do you have enough impulse control and stability to not create a lot of drama and destroy your emotional foundation. Egos can get in the way and when everyone around you is telling you how great you are (since many of them make money on your stardom), an inflated ego is unfortunately a common story.
Celebzter: What is your advice to Hollywood couples?
Dr. Reef Karim: The most important thing Hollywood couples should do is to build an emotional foundation with each other and with family and friends OUTSIDE of Hollywood. Develop trusting relationships with others who don’t have something to gain by being with you and who truly like you for who you are. And if you don’t like who you are, then get a therapist!
Dr. Reef Karim is hosting a new medical show on Discovery Fit & health called Broken Minds. Premiering in June. Follow Dr. Reef Karim on Twitter: @DrReef
And pick up a copy of his latest book, pictured below.