Valentine’s Day is one of those days that either brings excitement or dread. So, we reconnected with Jane Atkinson, who we provided us all with valuable advice when it comes to men, a few weeks back.
Here are her tips to make Valentine’s Day one to remember, regardless of whether you are in a relationship or single.
Celebzter: If you have a partner how do you woo your lover this Valentine’s Day? Any special tips?
Jane: I think the best gifts are the ones that are thoughtful. Something that shows you were listening. A few years back, I was always playing Scrabble by myself on my iPad. When my husband came home with a Scrabble board game, I was over the moon. He noticed!
I have a hard time coming up with gifts for John. Often the best ideas are simple, like a nice dinner that I cook myself. (And if you knew how comfortable I am in the kitchen, you’d know this is a big effort!) John also thinks that cooking dinner together is extremely romantic (and perhaps safer for him!)
Celebzter: A lot of couples break up just prior to this day or even, on the day, why does this happen?
Jane: Any relationship that isn’t solid has the potential to fall apart before a special occasion. I think it’s because this is when the priorities start to fall into place. Men might think “I’m not going to invest in some giant gesture” while women might think “do I really want to spend my entire holidays with this guy?”
I’m pretty sure I broke up with one of my frogs right after Valentine’s. He had gone all out with Dom Perignon and dinner but I just wasn’t that into him. Plus, I was pretty shallow in my 20’s and his name was Ralph. Poor dude, didn’t stand a chance.
Celebzter: What is the biggest mistake women make on Valentine’s Day?
Jane: Unrealistic expectations. If you think that Valentine’s is going to turn your romantically challenged guy into some sort of Don Juan, it’s just not going to happen.
And, if your relationship is not yet solid, let him take the lead on the romantic gestures. A small token of your affection is fine but don’t be going all out before you know he’s all in. Champagne and flower petals all over the bed might just send him screaming out the door.
Celebzter: Do women just stay with men so they are not alone?
Jane: I’m sure some women do stick around longer than they should. But I certainly wouldn’t recommend it. It’s much better to cut bait when you’re not into a guy and it’s unfair to string him along. I don’t think anyone should settle. Why not go for everything that you are seeking in a partner. And if you’re with the wrong guy, the right guy will never find you.
Celebzter: And for all of us singletons out there, what do we do if we are all alone?
Jane: Romance yourself!! What would be perfect if you were with a partner? I’d pick up a beautiful dinner, crack open a bottle of wine and watch my favorite movie Eat, Pray, Love. And, when I settled down with my journal right before bed, I’d write down how my perfect Valentine’s Day would look next year!
About Jane Atkinson
Jane Atkinson is the author of The Frog Whisperer: A 3-Step Approach to Finding Lasting Love and The Frog Whisperer Journal as well as a Positive Practice audio CD to help women (and men) get mentally ready for meeting their perfect mate. She lives in London, Ontario, with her husband of four years, John. (www.frogwhisperer.com)